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By Dr. Tim Riordan
I recently wrote about parenting failure, and I’m sure we can all relate. Parents are not the only ones who fail. Our children do too. What do you do with failure in your child’s life? We really can do one of two things. We can either condemn our children, driving home the failure in their life insuring that they will fail again, or we can help our children use the failure as a stepping stone to success in the future. I think we would all agree that the second option is by far the best. How do we help our children fail with positive results?
We must first help them see
the benefit of failure. The only way you can avoid failure is if you do not do
anything. Isn’t that a failure on its own? Henry Ford once said, “Failure
is simply the opportunity to begin again, this time more intelligently.” As
John Maxwell said, “Failure doesn’t have to be final.” We need to help our
children accept the fact that there are great benefits to failure. If nothing
else, failure helps us to learn one more way not to do something. Our failures
do not have to define us, but rather they can teach us. In order for this to
happen, we must reflect upon our failures. That may be where we mess up the
most. We must help our children to process their lives and think about their
failures and successes.
Along with that, we must
ingrain in our children that they should never give up because perseverance is
a key quality of a successful life. It’s not that we should just keep doing the
same things over and over again hoping to succeed. We should analyze and adjust
– analyze what we do and adjust to what works. While we may fail at something
ninety-nine times, it could be the one hundredth time that brings success.
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